Whether you're lost in layers of blankets in your bed or racing around trying to manage your overflowing to do list, start where you are in grief.
One of the biggest parts of starting your journey, whether in grief and healing or in a new reality in general, it is imperative to acknowledge your circumstances.
In grief in particular, acknowledge your feelings. Notice the tenseness in your shoulders. Feel how your jaw is locked tight as you grit your way through the day, just struggling to keep it together. Take inventory of your feelings - the sadness, the loneliness, the emptiness, the numbness, the anger, the questioning or guilt, the frustration - whatever feelings you find coming up for you in the moment. Acknowledge the weight you feel with each breath you take in, the hollow feeling in your heart, the sting with each tear that falls.
If we cannot understand where we are starting, it's harder to know how to move forward. Pretending we are not hurt can only build walls for us to have to tear down later, making it harder to process in the long run.
Consider grabbing a notebook and jot down the way you're feeling today. Take note of where you feel physical grief - the tense shoulders, headaches, brain fog, tight muscles, etc. - and how you feel your emotional grief - the sadness, anger, frustration, loneliness, etc. Throughout the next few weeks, having this list to reference can be a powerful, tangible tool to see our grief and our growth.
Remember to hold space for yourself as you feel these feelings and acknowledge your current reality. Start where you are. Your grief is not forgotten here.
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