The holidays can be a time of anxiety for many. You might see family members with strong differing views, have to reconnect with people you've had uncomfortable moments with in the past, or having to socialize more than you have energy for at different events. Setting boundaries for grief in the holidays can be the key to success in tricky situations.
There seem to be unspoken rules or expectations for the holidays, both socially and financially, that can make us feel uncomfortable in a variety of ways.
Specifically, this can present itself during grief. This holiday season, if you're not ready to have a conversation, or go to a specific event, the solution can be setting firm, healthy boundaries.
This can look different based on the situation. Answering questions politely but firmly with "I'm not comfortable with that question," or "That's not something I'm ready to discuss." or "I'm not ready to share, but we can talk about (fill in the blank with a safe topic)." These sentences are short, simple, and allow you to only share what you are comfortable with sharing.
If you are setting a physical boundary, solutions could be driving separately to an event so you are able to leave whenever you need or want, excusing yourself for a break, or saying no to invitations you are not comfortable with. Having a trusted friend or family member to lean on in these moments can be helpful, and might allow for easier transitions away from something you're uncomfortable with.
No matter what the season brings for you, setting boundaries in your grief can be a great tool to protect your peace. Limiting your participation or redirecting conversations can be a great way to stay involved during the holidays while remaining comfortable.
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